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These past few weeks were very hard for me; I’ve been pushing myself harder than ever to meet our targets that were so ever unattainable; because others, instead of giving their support not that I expect them to help draw us near the mark, but at least do their job, but to hold us down, that’s a different story. I am sick and tired of those lazy bees and back-stabbing snakes with friendly grins.

I am dead beat with work; often sleep deprived and stressed out. I am killing myself with work. I have no problem really with work; I can work under pressure with full loads but I can never get used to working around people who are insensitive and indolent.

Excuse my ranting, I only update my blog once in awhile due to my not so normal schedule at work, and the last thing I would want to write about is loathing and anger; I am not usually furious about these things. Most of the time, I just ignore them and be contented with a thought of my own serenity and that what they do tells more about themselves than it does to me. But lately the road for me was a bit rough, and cluttered around me were pieces of my emotions from my long-busted affair, which now has come to life because some ex appeared out of nowhere and expresses desire to date me again. There, I guess this is the real reason behind all these.

Rule of thumb, never date exes; I have been tagging along with this rule for years. I don’t believe in second chances. We all had our chance (to love and prove our worth) the first time. But anyway, I agreed to meet the ex and you do the math what happened next. Yes, I swallowed my own words, to hell with the rule; but no, I am not going to sow the seeds of love. At least I managed to convince the ex to a non-commitment relationship; just to enjoy each other’s company and be merry.

Love is not The Opposite of Hate

Love and hate are distinct rather than opposed experiences: they are similar in certain aspects and dissimilar in others. In light of the complex nature of love and hate, it is plausible that when people describe their relationship as a love-hate relationship, they may be referring to different features of each experience.

Like what happen to someone I know; he loathed another, so his daily life in the office was full of revulsion. Then I said to him, ‘the more you hate the more you love,’ and then he said ‘No,’ disgusted. Maybe he really hates this person; not the love-hate, but the hate-hate, like he doesn’t care if the other gets killed. And so he added, ‘what I feel is the total opposite of love.’ I couldn’t agree.

Love and hate are separated by a super thin line; some of us depict love as different from hate, but if we look at it, the only difference is being held in expression. Love is a feeling that makes a cold-muddy-morning a day in paradise, the cold and beating rain notwithstanding. Hate is the other thing that makes us want to feel the cold and the mud pulling us down; it’s what we would like to do to the others we hate. We can not feel love and lack a place where hate has to stay. Hate is a human feeling that is a result and a consequence of love.

When we think of love, we have a feeling of a lot of things that transpire at the bottom of our heart that we really want to feel. It is the reason we love – to feel each other in everything we do, from being there for each other to holding one another in high esteem. It is such that we can not say no to feelings since it is as that time where they are called upon to be what they are. Feelings are the things that make us realize and conjure signs of love and want. What ameliorates love is hate; we realize how much we love through the kind of hate we feel toward another.

So, when the madness of endearment makes us feel love, it is also the innate folly that brings out hate. It makes love and hate to be the feelings of the same thing – adoration. We hate what we don’t love, so the measure of love is hate. If you want to know how much you love someone, know how much you hate them. It is the simple facts that make all the difference.

Thus, the opposite of love is not hate. It’s when you are insensitive towards another and feel nothing at all; it’s indifference.

Friends

People today have lost sight of what a true friendship is. Friends don't have to be exactly the same. Friends have similarities but they also have their differences. The key to opening up the world of friendship is not only to expand on similarities but also to accept each other's faults, because you can't ever judge your friend. Friends love unconditionally. They have little angry moments but what's done is done and all is forgiven and forgotten. Why let something that happened in the past ruin what happiness you could have in the future? Friends add a little something to our lives to make our days brighter and our hearts bigger. Some people think that you have to know someone really well to become good friends. There is nothing like having someone to run to when your partner breaks up with you or your family is driving you crazy. You will always and forever have a shoulder to cry on when you are hurt. You can let your friends know the real you instead of the front you put on for everyone else. Let them know your fears and anxieties of life. Friends do not let you down. They love you for being you. Being loved by another person besides your family is the greatest feeling in the world. They do not have to love you like your family does. They love you because of the person you are and the person they see that you are about to become. These are only a few of the basics. Just remember, friends are forever, only if you keep it that way. Don't hurt your friends, love them instead. And when they drive you nuts, love them that much more for being just a little bit different.

The Mayonnaise Jar

Someone just sent this to me via e-mail; what a nice way to measure our lives. Hope you like it.

The Mayonnaise Jar

When things in your life seem, almost too much to handle,When 24 Hours in a day is not enough,Remember the mayonnaise jar and 2 cups of coffee.

A professor stood before his philosophy class And had some items in front of him.When the class began, wordlessly,He picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jarand proceeded to fill it with golf balls.

He then asked the students, if the jar was full.They agreed that it was.

The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and pouredthem into the jar. He shook the jar lightly.The pebbles rolled into the open Areas between the golf balls.

He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.

The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else.He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with a unanimous 'yes.'

The professor then produced two cups of coffee from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar, effectivelyfilling the empty space between the sand. The students laughed..

'Now,' said the professor, as the laughter subsided,'I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life.The golf balls are the important things - family,children, health, Friends, and Favorite passions – Things that if everything else was lost and only they remained, Your life would still be full.

The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, house, and car.

The sand is everything else --The small stuff.

'If you put the sand into the jar first,' He continued,'there is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls.The same goes for life.

If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff,You will never have room for the things that are important to you.

So...

Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness.Play With your children.Take time to get medical checkups.Take your partner out to dinner.

There will always be time to clean the house and fix the disposal.'Take care of the golf balls first --The things that really matter.

Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.

'One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the coffee represented.

The professor smiled.'I'm glad you asked'.

It just goes to show you that no matter how full your life may seem,there's always room for a couple of cups of coffee with a friend.'

Change

My whole life, I have been presented to a single element called change. Change occurs in many different forms and is carried out in many different ways. However, just recently, I have come to the realization that change can be the deepest of all subjects. I always assumed that change occurred when you moved to a new town or when you lost someone close to you. Those are elements to change, yes, but change doesn't have to occur over a single dramatic event. It can just happen overnight when your brain determines it's time to do something different.

For obvious reasons, people reject change. Especially people who are close to each other because they feel that this change is going to separate them and make them not as close as they used to be. They fight the change until they force the person to change. It's sad how this works, but in reality, it's probably the single most reason why people change. The people special to us love us so much that they want us to remain the way we are forever. Forever is a long time and not one person can always stay the same. Sometimes if the people we love would just accept the change and go with it, they would understand where the change was originally coming from.

It's dangerous to try to stop change and argue against it, especially if the person wants to change so much. Usually, the reason of change is not a matter of choice, but some sort of need to change people feel inside their heads and hearts. It's almost like a celestial force is making them change and they have no say on the matter; but they know they have to because their mental and physical attributes are commanding them to. Maybe the change isn't the best change, but if we really look and dig deeper, they are not really changing, but just trying to explore and find themselves and the one thing they need the most is the support of the people who they care about the most. When the people close to them dismiss their change as something unimportant and try to guard down everything by rules and regulations, they begin to change out of sadness that the one group of people they thought would understand, really has no clue. Maybe change isn't always good or bad but it could be looked at as something to help you grow. So just remember, if someone is changing, be there for them, offer your opinion but help them go through whatever they need to go through because they will do what they need to do regardless of the situation.